Fatherhood Rites & Transformation

Ee M htp (I come In Peace)

Im Right Back At It!

This subject I’m writing about today, I can only speak from a Male’s perspective, it is not my intent to disregard any female who may be a Parent/ Mother.

I can only speak from my experience.

With that being said let’s dive into what’s on my mind; Fatherhood rites of passage. In Afrakan culture throughout the continent, there are many forms of initiation or rites of passage, with one’s transition (death) being the final rites; all will eventually go through death.

The moment I became a father, I began this process of initiation, with me being the student & my daughter being the Seba (Teacher). One might ask; how can a child teach one anything? Before I answer that question I’d like to give my reader’s this excerpt from the great works of Dr. Tdka & Ife Kilimanjaro, Yahra Aaneb’s book MAAT. [Refer to my previous article on MA’AT also]

Intelligence Of The Heart

(akhu djes)

Release Egoism, Embrace Humility

2. Let go of your ego and embrace humility; trust yourself and your abilities; open your eyes and ears to learn lessons from many sources; do not place all trust and responsibility for growth into the hands of another; practice diligence, discipline and direction; focus on the development of the internal, rather than the external; create balance in your life and avoid obsession; complete tasks in a timely manner; live in reality and avoid fantasy; practice what you have learned. To know that you do not know and to be willing to admit that you do not know is real strength and sets the stage for learning and progress in any endeavor

3. Arrogance is a front for cowardice and conceit disallows learning; both push people away and lead to complacency.

       {Dr. Tdka Kilimanjaro, Dr.Ife Kilimanjaro, Seba Yahra Aaneb, MAAT, 2014,}

Those are profound statements which I take to heart. When my daughter was born; I realized (admit) I knew nothing about parenting. I grew up in a single parent home and really didn’t have an opportunity to see two parents interact doing daily task. I realized that this was going to be a new process and new challenge. I was; to learn lessons from my child(Still to this day). Because I would be arrogant to assume the outcome of future obstacles that we will face together. My child will most certainly test my diligence, discipline, direction as a father. In order to lead, I know I had to focus on the development of my internal, able to live in reality and practice what I have learnt.

I did not realize I was becoming a good teacher until I had my child, I also did not have the urge to write until I seen how enthused she was to read books and absorb knowledge. She has that hunger for information much like I did as a child; even to this day. So with this new Initiation; I stepped up for the task realizing the old me was dead; now prepared to go through transformation into fatherhood.

In the great works of our late Ancestor & scholar Dr. Amos N Wilson’s Book: Awakening the Natural Genius of Black Children In the 1^st chapter he writes about the Psychomotor Potential of a Black Child. Amos Wilson states: “If the growth of intelligence is rooted in the sensorimotor process then the Afrikan/Afrikan American child enters the world very well equipped to develope an intelligence that is of the highest quality and power! In terms of psychomotor abilities and devolopment, the afrikan child begins its life with a natural and definite head start. Numerous studies have found that children of Afrikan descent achieve sensory, motor and intellectual milestones well in advance of their white counterparts”. {Dr. Amos N Wilson, Awakening The Natural Genius Of Black Children, 1991}

Dr. Amos N Wilson was on the money when he wrote that. I started noticing very quickly how my child quickly developed, skipping past crawling straight to walking. Learning how to solve obstacles in her way, nodding her head on beat to different music rhythms, learning very quickly how to slide down a flight of steps (to get downstairs faster, do to her being wobbly when she walked down the stairs) her being able to focus on detail very quickly like Airplanes in the sky; being able to hear them in the sky on a quiet day. There’s a long list of things I could reference in her fast advancement. As I was utterly amazed, I also knew that I had to begin the process of my diligence, discipline, direction to my child.

Fatherhood is not a game, nor can a Man purchase(Financial Support Only, Buying Gifts) his way through fatherhood. That’s living in a fantasy of one’s imagination and avoiding reality. Reality is; Fatherhood is much more of dedication and bonding (oneness) with your children. The ability to prepare them through the obstacles that comes ahead.

I’ll leave off with this statement from Amos N Wilson. This is why Fatherhood is imperative to me: “ For the Black Man to be in the position he is in today, he has to be out of his mind” We have to be. For a people to vote and pay taxes for weapons that are going to destroy their very lives and the future of people, they have to be out of their minds. For physicist to build weapons that would end their lives and the lives of their children, they have to be out of their minds. For biologists and for doctors with M.D’s to develop bacteria so that populations can be wiped out by disease, which also means that their own children and their future generations can be wiped out, they must be out of their minds. For us to sit here and be unaware of what is going on in the world means that we have to be out of touch with reality”. {Dr. Amos N Wilson, Awakening The Natural Genius Of Black Children, 1991}

In conclusion: The process of Fatherhood is a life changing event, you either step up and prepare for the challenge, or you fumble the ball leaving your child to be mentally, physically and spiritually at the will of those who demise our children’s natural genius. The fatherhood process is an Initiation process of transformation; only your child(ren) will decide if you have passed the process and become raised. Go into this rite humble admitting that you know nothing because every child is different. Being able to learn from that child and being able to grow stronger in wisdom, diligence, discipline and your family will end up in the right direction.

PS: Childrens Rites Of Passage Is Imperative Also. Afrakan centered people need Rites Of Passage programs for children.. Get To Work!

Until next time these are my thoughts and I hope you enjoyed reading them!

Sources:

 MAAT- Dr. Tdka Kilimanjaro, Dr. Ife Kilimanjaro, Seba Yahra Aaneb

 Awakening The Natural Genius Of Black Children – Dr. Amos N Wilson

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Khufu, a co-founder of The Raising Awareness Group, possesses an astute intellect and a multifaceted educational background. Having attained an Associates of Arts degree, in foundations of business from the University of Phoenix. Khufu currently is in pursuit of a Bachelor's Degree in Cyber Security, a discipline that delves into the intricacies of securing computational systems & networks. Khufu Is Founder & Creator of the [Harmonic Ethos Philosophical Perspective]. Khufu's scholarly pursuits have encompassed the profound study of Sesh Medew Netcher (more commonly known as Egyptian Hieroglyphs), under the tutelage of Wudjau Iry Maat, as well as the erudite guidance of Seba Mfundishi Jhutyms. Khufu was Initiated into the revered Kemetic Shrine Of Jhuty Heru Neb Hu, facilitated by Seba Mfundishi Jhutyms in 2017. Khufu also was initiated as a Princehall Freemason in 2024. This stands as a testament to Khufu's commitment to acquiring profound wisdom. A fervent Pantheist, Khufu ardently seeks to unravel the intricacies of interconnectedness and interdependence within the tapestry of existence. His philosophical disposition, coupled with his prowess as an independent writer, independent researcher, and scholar, permeates his scholarly pursuits. In addition to these intellectual endeavors, Khufu in the past has dedicated himself to the study of Real Estate Practice & Fundamentals, as well training in managing aggressive behaviors and crisis intervention. Khufu's ancestral lineage bears the indelible mark of the Tikar in Cameroon, as his maternal ancestry reveals a remarkable 99.7% genetic affinity. As the youngest offspring of both his mother and father, Khufu joyfully assumes the roles of a doting father to a beautiful daughter and son, & husband to his wife. Foremost among Khufu's noble endeavors lies his unwavering commitment to enlightening young minds, an undertaking that he passionately undertakes through the prism of Raising Awareness. Furthermore, Khufu has exhibited exceptional dedication in collaborating closely with esteemed elders to accomplish the noble mission of reinstating mental Equilibrium to individuals through Education and Activism. Ultimately, Khufu's noble mission resides in empowering others with the requisite Tools to construct a Morally Elevated Society.

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